Mentality Makeover: Be proud AGAIN for what you have accomplished!

Kori BA

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

These pics came up on my Facebook timeline a couple of days ago.

The pic on the left is from April 25th, 2013, the morning I went in to have my daughter. The pic on the right was taken in April 2014, 50 weeks after I had my daughter.

It was at my first bikini competition.

This was a goal of mine to help me lose the baby weight.

I absolutely love these pics.

I think this came to me at a really great time.

A time where it not only shows just what hard work can do for you, but it helps me remind myself just how far I have come.

And I think that is one of my biggest issues I need to work on.

I’m always looking to reach the next goal or looking to find a next goal, that I never sit back and appreciate all the hard work I do put in.

I also know I am not the only one who does this.

Most people I know are always striving to become better.

Striving for the next accomplishment.

Now, this is not bad in anyway, but if you are always looking forward towards the next goal, you will never appreciate what you have accomplished.

So I give you a challenge for the next couple of days.

Think back to a time where you hit a goal and was extremely proud of yourself.

Maybe it was fitting into an old pair of jeans you haven’t worn in months/years.

Maybe it was finishing a 5k/10k/half-marathon/etc, that you trained hard for.

Maybe it was hitting a PR with an exercise.

Whatever it is, think back to it and remember that feeling.

Be proud again for what you have accomplished!

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Learning from a Mistake, the Hard Way

I seriously thought about not writing this post. I mean, who would know, right? I could have just skipped this one and gone on talking about my next goals or another nutrition/fitness tip. But, then not only would I be cheating you (those who read) but I would be greatly cheating myself. As much as I hate to admit things like this, this is where I will become stronger.

A couple months ago I wrote about deciding not to do the bikini competition in September. I was 2 weeks out and I was not ready. Or I should say my “bikini body” was not ready. It was a difficult decision but one I was OK with.

I knew I was going to work my tail off and do a bikini competition on December 6th.

And I did.

I worked and trained and dedicated all my “training energy” to my December 6th comp. Well 2 days before the comp I had to make a decision. Was I (or my body) ready to hit the stage in a bikini and be judged?

Sadly, that answer is “No” and I had to decide not to compete for this one either.

This was taken on Friday, Dec 5th. I am going to admit, I don’t look bad. I will even say I think I look pretty damn good, but not “bikini competition” good and there is a huge difference.

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To say I feel like a complete and utter failure is an understatement. During my pregnancy I had decided on a bunch of goals to reach and get me back into “pre-baby body” shape and I have hit them all. And, like had have said previously, I NEED goals to work towards to keep me going. I decided to set my goals at doing more shows. So why am I failing and deciding a second time in a row NOT to do a comp? Especially so close to the show?

Simple answer…I got fancy.

When I say “fancy” I don’t mean with my training?

No, my training was on par, but fancy with my nutrition.

During the 8 months leading up to my first comp, my coach and I kept it simple. Lean protein, veggies and post workout carbs with “Reward meals” here and there. Was it boring as hell?

YES!

Did it work?

HELL YES!

But, after my second comp, I talked with my coach about my future goals and we decided to switch things up a bit nutrition wise. Then when that seemed to not work, we decided to switch it up even more. It just wasn’t working. I also believe my body has been under so much stress from the training and all the dieting throughout the year that nothing at this time would have worked.

So, as I said above, I decided to not compete.

(For those of you who are unfamiliar with stress, or I should say overstressed, on the body, it can lead to increases of cortisol in the body which in turn leads to belly fat. This belly fat is extremely hard to get rid of while your body is under this stress.)

So what now?

Well, I will say I took this past weekend to sulk a little, I ate pizza, ice cream and some cookies.

Remember…I am an emotional eater. LOL!

I took the time to really decide WHAT I want to do. Do I want to try again and go for another show? Do I want to do all that training and dieting again? I’ll be honest…I don’t know.

Of course I’m going to train, I just don’t know what for right now. I have some ideas, but I’m going to give it some thought. Right now I have about a month that I will not be able to train heavily.

I will be having a surgery in about 1.5 weeks (nothing serious…just cosmetic) so I will be taking that time to think about what I want to do. I can tell you I WILL get back on that stage, just don’t know if I want that to be soon or this time next year or maybe even 2016.

So basically all of that is one long, drawn out way of saying “This is what I learned…”

1. Use the K.I.S.S method. KEEP IT SIMPLE STUPID!!!  Everyone wants to do the “next big thing” whether it be diet or training. If you are getting results, why look someplace else?

2. It’s not fun to fail (and yes that is what I did) but you need to own up to those failures and figure out WHY you failed. I did and now I’m working on getting back to my success.

3.  Keep going. By the time Friday morning rolled around I was done. I wanted to nothing to do with training or eating healthy or living a “healthy lifestyle”(like I said…I sulked). But I know that if I quit now, I would never know if I could get back on that stage.

Over the next 4 weeks I am making a commitment to myself to blog weekly, if not more. I need to make this commitment to strive to be better even when I can’t be at my best.

12 Weeks Out

As of today I am 12 weeks out to my next bikini comp. I have made huge improvements not only in my sleeping but my body composition in just one week. By upping my calories just by 200, I’ve noticed such a change. I am so excited to see how the next couple of weeks are going to go!

Here is a pic from last week. I was really bloated (oh the joys of being a woman), calories probably too low and my sleeping was pretty off. (I’m actually really embarrassed about this picture compared to where I was just a month before.)

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And here is this morning!!

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Here’s to the next 12 weeks!!! 🙂

OK, so I lied…

Well not really lied, but more like changed my mind.

When I started this whole journey of getting my pre-baby body back I set goals for myself. First was the KB competition, then was my photo shoot and finally, my two bikini comps. My intentions were to do the two bikini comps and then move on. I honestly didn’t think I would like it.  I am not one for wanting attention on me, especially in a bikini. But after my second competition, the Europa Games, last week…I really want to do another one!

So what made me change my mind? For one, I was so much more prepared for this one. Even though it was only 4 weeks after my first comp, I felt so much more prepared and confident. I knew what to expect (although every comp is different) and I looked the best I ever have! Also, for my first comp I placed last, 16th out of 16 women. This one….13th out of 16 women. Not a huge jump, but for me this felt awesome! I took this week to really think about what I wanted to do. What my next goals were going to be. Remember, for me it all leads right back to goals and having an end date. I HAVE to have an end date or I get bored and I will fail.

While I was contemplating my new goals I looked back at some of my pics from the Europa.

Here is me and my partner in crime Kristy…

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Here is me on stage…workin’ it 😉

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So now what??

Well I have decided that I am going to do another comp in September. This is going to give me enough time to work on areas I feel need to be improved. But that is not the only goal I have. I want to place in the top 10 for my next comp. I am not a competitive person, but something has awoken that part of me and I’m running with it! I’m still not looking to get my Pro Card, as cool as that would be, just want to possibly make it more than a hobby.